Tuesday, March 12, 2013
the birth plan
I have been meaning to type this up for months... But, I kept putting it off, waiting until I was at a "safer" place in my pregnancy. I did this when I was pregnant with Piper, too. I would put things off until I felt like there was more of a guarantee that everything would be okay. Well, now that I am over 31 weeks pregnant and have single digit weeks left before we get to meet this little guy, I am going to go ahead and say that I'm about as "safe" as I'll ever be. And, besides, I don't really believe that writing this post will cause anything bad to happen.
So, onto the birth plan. Like any other plan, I am going into it this time around assuming that while I can make plans all day and all night long, sometimes things don't turn out the way we want them to, but I sure do have some preferences! For starters, I am going for a VBAC. After much debate from MBL and a lot of research, I've decided that this is the best plan for me and my body. When it comes down to the safety of c-sections versus VBACs, the first post-cesarean delivery is kind of a wash--neither way is necessarily more safe (especially in my situation since my children will be almost 2 years apart). If I am able to have a VBAC this time around, then my next VBAC will carry less risks than another c-section and because we aren't sure if we want to have #4, I feel more comfortable attempting a vaginal delivery so I have the option of having more vaginal deliveries down the road.
Another important reason I want to go for a VBAC is that while my hospital did everything they could have to make my c-section enjoyable, nothing about the experience was pleasant for me. I hated how the anaethesia made me feel; how it made me shake uncontrollably on the table and throw up afterwards. I felt so miserable during the entire procedure that I couldn't really enjoy what was happening. I like the fact that during a vaginal delivery I will have a better appreciation of what is going on. I'm also hoping that I won't be as nauseous during a vaginal delivery as I was during my entire c-section (can you tell I hate throwing up?).
Another clincher for me in pursuing a VBAC is that Piper and I struggled with breastfeeding from the very start. The nurse tried to latch her on in recovery and I spent the whole time getting sick. Then, Piper was so sleepy from everything that every feed was a struggle. I'm not sure if I had low supply due to those first few days, but I know that missing out on immediate skin to skin and not being able to feed immediately certainly didn't help. I'm hoping a vaginal delivery will give me an edge up in this department.
And now for the interesting part, we are not only pursuing a VBAC, but I am also planning on giving birth 5 hours from where we currently live. The reason for this is simple, MBL just took a job with a lot of travel and *if* I end up with a repeat c-section, the only family nearby is my sister and she has 3 kids. With a c-section, I won't be able to pick Piper up and if MBL is out of town there is no way my sister can come over every time Piper wants "up please" or every time she needs a diaper change. So, I am giving birth at the hospital where several of my siblings were born and we will be living with my parents for about 2 months. That way, if I have a c-section, someone will be available to help me with Piper any time of the day or night. My dad is retired and my mom is a teacher who will be on summer break approximately 3 weeks after I give birth. If I get my VBAC, then it will just be super nice to have help readily available if I need it. My parents are awesome and this is really going to be a great situation. I may even get some extra naps in with their help :). And it sure doesn't hurt that all the birth suites at their local hospital were recently redone:
And there you have it. My birth plan. I guess we'll just have to see how it all pans out!*
*the baby is currently transverse, which if he stays that way automatically means c-section. there must be something goofy with my uterus to make my babies want to lay in there incorrectly! i'm hoping he behaves and flips soon.
Did you have a birth plan?
Did things go how you expected?
Is there anything you would change?