tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post5774278650173167610..comments2023-12-08T15:44:26.655-05:00Comments on believing in june: the grief of IVF failurechristinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16489232758689574628noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-77140070798678277692012-04-27T10:45:41.504-04:002012-04-27T10:45:41.504-04:00Visiting from ICLW. I'm so sorry you're h...Visiting from ICLW. I'm so sorry you're having a rough week. I too have been pretty lucky in not having too many terrible things said to me. A big irk of mine were all the suggestions. It stopped after a few years, and I know people were trying to be helpful, but really? You think I've been sitting idly by, twiddling my thumbs, just *hoping* I'd eventually get pregnant? You think I haven't tried just drinking some tea, etc?Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02925045129791741306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-72603641227949659422012-04-26T18:11:58.871-04:002012-04-26T18:11:58.871-04:00Hey there, I'm here from ICLW. I'm so sorr...Hey there, I'm here from ICLW. I'm so sorry this cycle didn't take. Wishing you the best of luck on the next go.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-75857857958261374442012-04-23T15:08:54.301-04:002012-04-23T15:08:54.301-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Stay Beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16692784810722609076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-7470945643649007962012-04-23T13:48:47.301-04:002012-04-23T13:48:47.301-04:00I am so sorry. I am desperately trying to conceiv...I am so sorry. I am desperately trying to conceive number two and all of those BFN's suck. I am on clomid currently and scared to death that I will have to go back to IVF which is how we conceived our first. She was one out of 12 embryos to survive therefore I am so scared of our odds next time. I am thinking of you. The thing that irks me most about infertility is that ignorant people like my brother and sister in law think I am a complainer and over dramatizing what effect the meds have on me. No one would choose to have the side effects we get from these meds. Anyway, thinking of you. Hugs to your little munchkin.Amber Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09018361388875043216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-29892095451378464262012-04-23T11:32:53.018-04:002012-04-23T11:32:53.018-04:00:( I'm so sorry. I can't even begin to im...:( I'm so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine the disappoiment you are experiencing. Hang in there!e Dalyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14442030385562078974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-45969102335680071952012-04-23T09:48:35.366-04:002012-04-23T09:48:35.366-04:00Here for ICLW!
I am so sorry about your failed IVF...Here for ICLW!<br />I am so sorry about your failed IVF. <br />As for comments stupid people make. Visiting my GP once, his nurse asked if I was on birth control and I told her briefly about our infertility issues and she said, "wow, I can't imagine that. I have trouble trying NOT to get pregnant!" Sheesh!LeslieGailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08659562153250075178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-9899115107295443822012-04-22T14:09:59.243-04:002012-04-22T14:09:59.243-04:00Since you now have her phone number you could do a...Since you now have her phone number you could do a child protective services referral....just a thought....Larahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06285022533195339489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-91453260141414823472012-04-22T14:08:47.149-04:002012-04-22T14:08:47.149-04:00I agree with Amy about the " you'll under...I agree with Amy about the " you'll understand when you are a mother comments" especially when they are said by people who know you are infertile.Larahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06285022533195339489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-14166986031421721782012-04-22T12:18:30.794-04:002012-04-22T12:18:30.794-04:00What an absolutely precious little bug you have. I...What an absolutely precious little bug you have. I can't blame you for wanting to do it all over again! I think I have been really lucky and have never encountered anything truly unkind, but I did get all the 'relax' 'I knew a couple who...' 'have you tried...?' 'it takes time you know' stuff from almost everyone. The most welcome reaction I ever had was when I told an old school friend, she said 'Oh honey. That is really horrible, I can't imagine what you are going through. When it took me three months with my second I cried each time so I just can't even imagine. I am so very sorry.' And she hugged me, and that was just lovely. Why can't everyone be so empathetic and kind. Why does everyone think I came to them for their opinion or advice?Lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02655205298951083138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-8341113834490099062012-04-21T23:35:47.361-04:002012-04-21T23:35:47.361-04:00I am so sorry.
I think insensitive, inappropriate...I am so sorry.<br /><br />I think insensitive, inappropriate and just plain rude comments are one of the worst parts of infertility. <br /><br />I think what irks me the most is when people say things like "You don't understand, you don't have kids" or worse "you'll get it when your a mother."Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04816106650872591448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-11355992956583258682012-04-21T19:56:05.397-04:002012-04-21T19:56:05.397-04:00Oh, christine, I'm sending you *hugs*.
I was ...Oh, christine, I'm sending you *hugs*.<br /><br />I was in the grocery store last weekend, when I heard a mom tell her little girl "milk is too expensive, you have to stop drinking so much." She was maybe 3. It made me cringe a bit, but I know we all have our own struggles.sass @ (In)fertility Unexplainedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06322070279032931788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-45301311223528718382012-04-21T19:11:46.568-04:002012-04-21T19:11:46.568-04:00What irks me most is the whole "just relax an...What irks me most is the whole "just relax and it will happen" BS. Would you tell a diabetic to just relax and their blood sugar would balance without insulin? Dumbasses. My most hurtful comment was right after a miscarriage and my MIL said "Well, obviously God knew that you just wouldn't be able to handle being a GOOD mother to another child... and look at the bright side, now you have time to lose some weight." FINALLY the worst situation like that I encountered was when I was 3rd trimester pregnant, sitting in the OB's office and some total crackhead lady came in and sat next to me complaining about how she was pregnant AGAIN and how much she didn't want it, and how it was SO hard to watch her boyfriend's 3 year old daughter because she just needed to be slapped all day long. And on and on. I had to work to not just punch her in the face. Instead I tried to offer some perspective "I TTC for 5 years to get pregnant, it's a blessing... and 3 year olds don't respond to physical punishment, time outs and distraction work much better... etc." She ended the conversation by giving me her phone number "in case" I ever needed a babysitter. Um, okay psycho, get by my kids and I'll call the cops...Cocohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18120459484825947654noreply@blogger.com