tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post3274771197804633320..comments2023-12-08T15:44:26.655-05:00Comments on believing in june: growing through infertilitychristinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16489232758689574628noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-36869011845818016422012-01-26T14:48:02.684-05:002012-01-26T14:48:02.684-05:00GREAT POST. I've been feeling so down and hur...GREAT POST. I've been feeling so down and hurt by a few people telling me just to "trust God" and let things happen naturally...like they are questioning my faith. My journey has been no where near as long and painful as so many of you but man-o-man has it taught me a lot.e Dalyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14442030385562078974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-39562243089859440942012-01-24T23:57:23.553-05:002012-01-24T23:57:23.553-05:00The hardest thing came from my mother-in-law. When...The hardest thing came from my mother-in-law. When she found out we were seeing and fertility doctor and going through fertility treatments she said that, "We were taking control away from God and not trusting Him to give us a child in His time." This came at a time when I was an emotional mess from Clomid. It did not go over well.Heather C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07777215485647686801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-33509080899902827682012-01-23T17:14:59.861-05:002012-01-23T17:14:59.861-05:00Great post! People have said many insensitive thin...Great post! People have said many insensitive things to me (some of them invoking God - I am not the right audience for that). But what I ALWAYS wanted them to say to me was: "I love you and I am so sorry you are going through this." Then, following with sincere questions about treatment always made me feel like they cared too.<br /><br />Thanks for commenting on my blog. Happy ICLW!Her Royal Fabulousnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04008723588326617669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-34769734894100182602012-01-23T17:06:20.663-05:002012-01-23T17:06:20.663-05:00Great post! I can also say that I was not as compa...Great post! I can also say that I was not as compassionate to other peoples stuggle's. As a teenage I would say "If I can't have kids I will just adopt..." little did I know I would spend 4 years waiting for my BFP. Although we have decided that we would go with adoption over IVF, everyone's choices are different, and each should be respected. I loved this post! Thank you!Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11794703271443464268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-75824727168758063822012-01-23T15:37:02.943-05:002012-01-23T15:37:02.943-05:00Happy ICLW. Thanks for stopping by ny blog. Someti...Happy ICLW. Thanks for stopping by ny blog. Sometimes I feel like there just is no right thing to say. When someone's hurting, almost any remark can feel insensitive. I am always so afraid of saying the wrong thing in this situation. That said, I can't think of any majorly insensitive thing that's been said to me.Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07335915683875653154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-20917829074553310022012-01-23T13:49:05.692-05:002012-01-23T13:49:05.692-05:00There are so many things people have said...it'...There are so many things people have said...it's insane that people just say what they think, whether or not they mean to be mean.<br /><br />Thanks for this post! HAPPY ICLW!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-5798819372916693782012-01-22T23:30:25.090-05:002012-01-22T23:30:25.090-05:00Fabulous post...
When we were struggling with sec...Fabulous post...<br /><br />When we were struggling with secondary infertility due to repeat pregnancy loss, someone who should have had more compassion said (in a very condescending, dismissive voice) "I don't know why you're so desperate to have another child." She totally ignored the incredible pain of our multiple losses and implied we should just stop trying. <br /><br />Honestly, I don't know what I would have wanted her to say because I've found out that she really doesn't have it in her to be compassionate when it doesn't directly affect her. <br /><br />ICLW #66Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-73508923608195921232012-01-22T22:33:41.176-05:002012-01-22T22:33:41.176-05:00Great post!!!!
The most hurtful thing that anyone...Great post!!!!<br /><br />The most hurtful thing that anyone said to me was a statement from my own mother.... she believed that God had a plan for me and that when I deserved a child one would be given to me. Then she had the audacity after multiple IVFs to tell me that God had given me my pregnancy... YEAH RIGHT. Thats not any God I want to know or worship.<br /><br />There was nothing she could have said. It was too obvious how she felt. I guess just "im sorry".Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14111587875861437054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-3749046590619245632012-01-22T18:07:58.994-05:002012-01-22T18:07:58.994-05:00Beautiful post :) I love it. I, too, reflect bac...Beautiful post :) I love it. I, too, reflect back on how I used to think about people who weren't as fortunate as me, and it makes me sad to know that I was so judgmental. My change of heart grew from the issues we had with getting pregnant. Funny how things work.<br /><br />The comment that has stuck with me came from my friend. When she learned of my miscarriage last year, she said something to the effect of: "Oh, there are so many people who miscarry. It's super common, so don't worry. You're in good company." I wanted her to respond with compassion, but instead her response made me very closed off in future discussions with her about fertility. Sadly, this same friend experienced a miscarriage last month, and I don't think she realized the pain I was going through until she experienced it, too. My heart hurt for her, and I know she reflected on how she reacted when I shared my news.- Mrs. Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06524403137652318209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-5370375682879938642012-01-22T17:57:25.343-05:002012-01-22T17:57:25.343-05:00This is an awesome post! I'm so glad you were ...This is an awesome post! I'm so glad you were brave enough to post who you really are/were. Thank you so much!ousoonerchickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09885981540075640756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-3522291848189035352012-01-22T17:36:20.176-05:002012-01-22T17:36:20.176-05:00Great post! The hardest thing someone ever said t...Great post! The hardest thing someone ever said to me was from my mother. I was visiting my family for the holiday and my younger sister was pregnant with her first. My Mother was rubbing on my sister's belly in front of me and I told her how hard it was for me to watch her do this. <br /><br />My mom then responded, "Just because you are suffering doesn't mean we need to hid our joy for your sister." <br /><br />It was very hard for me to hear but at the same time it was a true statement. All I wanted was my mother to recognize my pain.<br /><br />Happy ICLW #7Donor Divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07394002080419497673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-12728923388532906982012-01-22T16:25:54.686-05:002012-01-22T16:25:54.686-05:00I could practically have written this post. Maybe ...I could practically have written this post. Maybe with a few minor differences. But basically, my experience of RPL has pushed me through the same transformation you describe of becoming much less judgmental of other people. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.<br /><br />ICLW # 8Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05614983212919126632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-28803641147249596132012-01-22T16:21:34.618-05:002012-01-22T16:21:34.618-05:00Very nice post! I admire you for writing this.Very nice post! I admire you for writing this.Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17635695705004799302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-42624899888448552002012-01-22T16:18:58.718-05:002012-01-22T16:18:58.718-05:00Speak.the.truth.girl! Awesome post!Speak.the.truth.girl! Awesome post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2881908355741338835.post-35353523828675475342012-01-22T15:54:56.506-05:002012-01-22T15:54:56.506-05:00Beautiful post. Looking back it's amazing how ...Beautiful post. Looking back it's amazing how much infertility has made me grow. I know I'm a better mother because of it, and I know it has made me so much more aware and compassionate to other people's pain. Thank you for writing this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com